Someone, well not just anyone, an amazing man and published author, Brian P. Swift asked me recently what I thought the definition of “grit” was.
To me grit means being tough, working hard and not stopping until success, or the goal is reached. Never giving up even despite the odds. Perseverance.
He also asked me if I felt grit was something learned or already in our DNA
I think characteristics of grit can somewhat be learned by watching and being in the presence of others who demonstrate grit. If you’ve been around those types of people your whole life, most likely you acquired some of those qualities, ethics and mindset. But, obviously one could be around that their whole lives and still may lack the desire, drive, or capabilities to truly display grit
His third question for me, was asking me if I felt that I had Grit!
I don’t know. Do I?
My drive started around age 6 or 7 when I realized boys could play football but not girls. I remember being so angry over that. I played football with the boys all the time in the neighborhood and was just as good! I played softball, but needed more of a challenge so at age 13, I played boys baseball! Whether I was liked or supported was not my problem! I proved I could “hang” with the boys and I was having a blast learning, growing, improving and doing what I loved!
I was a longshot trying out for college level softball. Did that stop me from making the team?
I was extremely, painfully shy as a little girl and hated school. To the point, that I almost never graduated.
Yet, I became a teacher! 🤔
Did losing my breast due to cancer prevent me from lifting weights, playing softball, tennis, golf, having body confidence, living a strong, healthy, fulfilling life?
Did that or my age (49) stop me from stepping on one of the largest stages to compete in a bikini competition?
Every time I was told that I couldn’t do something, or the odds were against me, I became more determined than ever to prove that I could!
My drive, my determination in everything I do is very strong. Whether it was graduating college (a huge personal achievement honestly), getting over my shyness to become a teacher, then to become a leader, a department chair person, a head coach, a teacher workshop presenter, a mom, 😳 x3😳😳😳. A college adjunct, a cancer survivor, and a freaking bikini competitor at age 50, 😂 and now own my own business.
Grit was possibly learned on my part, as both my parents (Sy Sabatini) and (Charlie Sabatini) were hard workers and determined, always hustling, always grinding. So glad I grew up with that. I had the absolute best role models!
But what was always in my heart, deep down within me is something only God could give me and that is what will be my destiny.
My love, my passion, my determination, my desires, my talents, my perseverance, my ability to hustle, to grind, to dig deep, to fight, to never give up, to say fuck the odds, to smile, to stay positive, to believe in myself, to believe in God, to have the ability to go all in with all my heart, and never stop and never fear is what makes me, me. So, yes Brian P. Swift, perhaps I am “gritty” and there’s no stopping me now!😉
Work for it, live it, own it, grit it!
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